Dear Vickie,
In group projects, I feel like I’m always the one doing all/most of the work, or other people expect me to lead the project. How do I avoid falling into that trap?
Sincerely,
Heavy Workload
Dear Heavy Workload,
Sometimes you do have to take the lead in order for people to do their parts, but that’s not always a bad thing. Setting boundaries and making sure that everyone’s aware of what needs to get done usually helps me out. It’s important to be firm (but don’t be mean!), and check in with progress and assigned tasks. Sometimes, falling into the trap is inevitable, but just make sure you get what you need out of it, whether that’s adequate credit or an A+. If this seems to be a recurring problem, you could always go to a teacher because there’s nothing wrong with holding people accountable.
XOXO,
Vickie
Dear Vickie,
I have a crush, but we’re also best friends, and I really want to confess my feelings. What do I do?
Sincerely,
Lovelorn
Dear Lovelorn,
My advice is to get a feel of how your relationship with this best friend really is before making any drastic decisions that might ruin the friendship. The harsh truth is, sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn’t, and sometimes you’re just better as friends. If you feel like it’s already changing your friendship, you need to get the feelings off your chest before things change too much or become strange. The more you overthink it, the more things will change because you’re already seeing it through a different lens. If you’re really friends, things will either work out or you’ll make it through this awkward bump. If you’re not, better to find out sooner rather than later. Rejection is better than regret!
XOXO,
Vickie